Tips for visiting NYC: After action review

A week of being vulnerable just to be with family.

We went to visit family in New York city recently, as we try to do every year.For us,it is worth the trouble and expense to see everyone, especially since we all have kids who should have a lot of time to bond with their cousins.

Maybe I am still reeling from the visit, but I wanted to make some notes about it since we will be doing this again in the future. Lessons learned should be leveraged to make the next trips easier.

Visiting that part of the country around November, the landscape is just amazing. We are always mesmerized by the color of the trees and the rolling landscape. It just pales in comparison to fall in North Texas. I have to keep reminding my wife that this is unfair, as this is the peak of the autumn beauty. Come winter, this will all be brown sticks with gray slick roads.




Self defense: I am basically naked whenever I go to visit NYC. This year I felt particularly naked because I have been carrying concealed on me daily. So going there I realize how unarmed the everyday guy has to be:

  1. No firearm
  2. No knife
  3. Pepper sprays may be okay-may be not. Depends on the officer giving you the ticket

I am sure there is some way around it. Perhaps I just forgot how I dealt with it before when I still lived there. Not being up to date on any local laws, I opted to stay safe. I have been given insanely stupid tickets before so I understand how stupid the mindset can get. What seems reasonable to me, might be completely unacceptable there. I may need to prepare for this ahead of time on our next visit; research what local laws allow and mail a small kit there for myself to use.

Unfortunately my tools were very limited and for the most part we relied on situational awareness for our safety.



Traffic has not changed. There is always some type of construction. Have a sense of direction so you can navigate around these. The subway is a great way around. If you want to feel the beat of the city, take the subway 1 day and take the time to ride it during rush hour as part of the experience. You can do this and stay within Manhattan, shuffling from one destination to the next while sharing the train with the locals.

If you are looking to maximize your time and visit, the best way is to have a local drive you and wait for you from one place to the next. Not everyone gets to do this, but I suppose there’s a better chance of anyone pulling this off today than they could before. Uber seriously makes this possible. In our case, my dad drove in the city as a living for years-he is retired now. His knowledge plus my map updates on my smartphone allowed us the best routes. Since he is retired, he preferred to just park somewhere and wait for us to finish checking out something. I did not get this at first and was always hesitant when he offered, but in the end I think we benefit immensely from it and he likes doing it on occasion anyway. To be able to serve family for free when you feel like it is usually more rewarding than serving your employer.



I realized we would be in NYC when the election results came out. I was worried about this but there wasn’t much to do. We bought the plane tickets based on the deals we got months ago. As we now know Donald Trump won the election. I woke up from a nap when I heard there were protests going on. We were outside of the city visiting family, and as soon as I was awake enough to analyze the news, I made sure we had a route home that was far away from any protests. We did not even risk being in the island of Manhattan even though my dad thought it was fine. I told him he was underestimating how these groups coordinate, being at Union square one moment and popping up to block FDR the next. We took the bridge straight to Queens.

Our next few days involved keeping track of protests so we know we were not headed into any. Not that there were a lot, but the fact that they are there and you never know what might happen makes it a good idea to check. Particularly since I am traveling with small kids.



When we were done, we packed our luggage that night with special considerations for the airport we were using. To be very clear, Laguardia airport is one of the worst airports I get to use on a regular basis. This is amplified by the highly stressed people in it and the cranky security personnel who reciprocate said stress.

What does this mean (obviously other than not packing items not allowed in the plane)? For us we packed the check in luggage so there were no questions with it and the weight was safe. We gave ourselves a pound or so of buffer so we did not have to open the check in luggage to shuffle weight to other bags. We did not want to pay any extra fees.

For our hand carry luggage this was tricky also. Being a small family, I will be bogging down the security check in with 3 small luggage, a tote, a diaper bag, 2 parts of a stroller and another 4 trays for laptops, shoes and what not. I make a lot of enemies in that check in line. We plan for this so that I only have to open one bag which has all the electronics. There are no liquids in the whole entourage other than my daughter’s milk. I had a very curated first aid kit in one bag for my son who had some skin issues. We had some medication in the luggage also but only in small amounts. No liquids. Next time, we will need to have anti-allergy meds in a small container in our hand carry luggage-lesson learned this year.

Most of our wires/chargers were rolled neatly so x-ray would clearly show them. If we brought food in the bags, they were easy to identify on the xray. Previously we brought some food rolled in aluminum foil and we had it in our carry on luggage-this was a mistake from last year and we made sure not to do it this time.

Given the small house we were carrying with us thru security, we made it thru pretty quickly. At the gate, we would check in the rest of the carry-on luggage. We would also ask to leave the stroller at the door of the plane. When we sit in the plane, all we have to deal with are the kids, one luggage with the meds and electronics and a diaper bag. We had food, entertainment, meds and diapers.


Traveling with kids is always fun. They easily get bored and will constantly try anything in the new environment. We brought an ipad mainly for entertainment. We had snacks for the kids and extra bottles of milk (last time we ran short when our flight was delayed).

For reasons still unclear, my son burst into allergies during the flight. He was itching and scratching the entire time. We saw the hives break out and spread. This was complicated by another skin issue/injury he had on another part of his body-which meant he could not scratch/touch it or he risks spreading it. Also had a minor diaper issue when my daughter ran out of baby wipes when she did a number 2. With what we had we still made it okay. The heavily curated medical pouch ended up being on my pocket and was crucial for us on this trip. The only thing was, I plan to have a small dose of allergy meds in my pocket next time.I think I went to the bathroom about 7 times for the 4 hour flight-thinking back now it does not sound that bad.

When we got to Dallas, things got better fast. We got the allergy meds and my son calmed down. We took a photo of which area we parked our car so we did not forget. As soon as we got in the car we felt more at ease and in our element, and we calmed down.


Next time we visit, we have some improvements in mind so the trip will be even easier for us. For me, some highlights are:

  1. a creative self defense kit
  2. better supplied and curated med kit
  3. a set budget, in cash and on cards so we me and my wife are insync on how far we are spending for this trip
  4. a more defined list of places to go so we can schedule better
  5. letting friends and family know sooner of our plans to visit so they don’t all try to get to see us at the same time
  6. factor in an extra 1.5 hours to check in at airports
  7. coordinate better on clothing so we can travel lighter-bring pants not shorts, layering options for tops, 1 hat each
  8. coordinate what items can be bought online and shipped there
  9. make a list of conversation topics I want to hone into with certain family members-this lets me maximize time spent with them.

So there you go, some things learned from our trip. We used to live there so we know what to expect, but traveling with small kids always adds a bunch of unknowns. We do not try to see a lot of places-that is never practical anyway. We make a list of new things to see (maybe newly constructed projects) and sort by how much we want to see them. We try to get to them, but not stress out if we miss on any. By seeing a few good sites, we get a feel of the beat of the city, get some new photos for the family album and check of stuff on the bucket list-but we don’t exhaust ourselves and stress relationships by forcing ourselves to go to places.

Next year I hope things will be easier. Our kids will be a year older and we will have planned better for the trip.


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